Top 5 Husband Training Tips (or blokes in general)
1. Watching Telly
They sit in a position that ensures that everyone can have eye contact (often angled partly to the screen, partly to each other).
The conversation flows!
Women talk about; the plot, the characters, their motives – (although weirdly, tend not to try to predict the end, for fear of spoiling the experience for everyone else). They can skilfully keep track of the story whilst enjoying the insight that their friends give them – enriching the experience and deepening the connection they have together. Men just want to watch the programme. They want to sit facing it, and they don’t want to talk about it until later – if at all!
Tip 1. SHHHH
2. Making Requests
It’s going to be tight for time and I am worried about the traffic on the way into town because I will have to double back on myself and you are so much nearer because of the one-way system.”
To husbands, this sounds like just lots and lots of (vaguely annoying) detail, which doesn’t get to a particular point.
Tip 2. Cut out the BLAH. Give your husband direct requests.
3. No Gatecrashing ‘The Rock’
We meet up. Most usually we will talk to ALL of our friendship group (even on-line).
Husbands tend not to do this.
Tip 3. If he has gone all quiet and thinky – it’s because he is thinking.
4. Fair’s Fair
Tip 4. Don’t moan about him about minor things to your mates.
5. Play to (both) Your Strengths
Whether it’s a definite plan, a brainstorming or general discussion.
Tip 5. Let him fix things. His brain was designed for it.
Any team, or organisation for that matter, consists of people performing different roles.
As long as the money comes in, the house doesn’t fall down, the children are looked after, people eat regularly, nothing goes on fire and you are not overrun with pests –