If you’ve ever seen Harry Potter or read the books…
(total Harry Potter nerd here –
I carried on reading out loud long after the children had fallen asleep!)
then you’ll know that saying the word ‘Voldemort’ out loud was pretty much akin to shouting the F-word across the checkouts at Waitrose.
But in your life – there are words that are much more dangerous.
The things you repeatedly say to yourself.
The ones that have no REAL basis in fact.
Those that you would never say to a friend because they are way too mean.
They can creep up on you – this is why you can miss them happening.
We were running a Mindfulness course in the gardens of a very cute, Olde English ‘village rooms’ (you know the kind, Cath Kidston tablecloth, deliberately mismatched china, actual hand towels in the loo)
And a woman told a story about the first week she attended.
Essentially she had noticed another woman’s shoes.
This was the train of thought…
“Wow what beautiful shoes. Oh my goodness, my shoes are so old. Why did I even wear them here? The heels are even chipped. I could have polished them. Do you think she’s noticed? I never get time to polish my shoes. I never get time to do anything like that. I can’t remember when I last polished the children’s shoes? How am I so disorganised? My poor children deserve a mum like that. I am such a crap mother.
From admiring someone’s shoes – to being a bad mother… in 4 easy steps.
Self-Sabotage 101
“I never stick at anything”
“I could never do achieve what x did”
“I am so disorganised – everyone seems to have life sorted”
None of this is based in fact.
Repeatedly telling yourself things like this WILL wear you down.
Your subconscious mind hears and stores this kind of thing – and does not distinguish them from facts.
You will start to believe them.
You will become them.
And the good news is… you can reverse that.
Whether you call it the Law of Attraction, Positive Thinking, or Self-Belief.., the power of your words are very real.
But it works both ways.
Invite the good words/people/situations/things in – ABSOLUTELY – but nipping the bad ones in the bud is just as important.
It is not fluffy, ‘out-there’ feel-good rhetoric – it is based in hard science.
It literally changes your biology.
I (Tanya) have had such extraordinary personal success with doing this – I have had a research scientist from the University sent to study the strategies I use.
I’ll tell you about that later in this series.
It’s a good story.
In the meantime – we really encourage you to think about the words you use,
to be kind to yourself
and really firm with yourself too.
You’ll transform the way you feel really fast.
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Tanya & Claire x
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