I asked on my timeline the other day, how people felt about public speaking… In a ‘standing in front of people, delivering a speech on stage’, kind of way. It was one of the busiest threads I’ve had for a long time, and the conversation turned to confidence in general or lack of it in… Read More >
Why Do You Have A Spoon In Your Tights?
FARTS ARE FUNNY Why do you have a spoon in your tights? I put it there after lunch. Why? To see what it was like. (None of this or the following are jokes BTW, so don’t get excited about any upcoming punchline) these are just regular conversations I have with groups of 5-year-olds I see… Read More >
3 Tips to Win at Weekends
#1: Get that holiday attitude So many of us fantasise all year our Summer Holiday, but why shouldn’t we get those holiday feels and sprinkle them throughout the year?On holiday we tend to ‘go with the flow’, explore, linger over meals, play games, and have longer conversations. While the routine of weekdays (work, school, activities… Read More >
Zombie Apocalypse – 7 Tips
Top tips for being mentally strong
Ever had a ‘wobble’? The kind where you wish you could be a little stronger, a little surer of yourself and your own ideas? Here are the 13 things that Mentally Strong People do in Amy Morin’s book of the same name. Reading this shows you just how overcoming these mean you can overcome what’s… Read More >
Give Me Food
EMOTIONAL EATING What’s it all about, then? Emotional eating: the practice of consuming large quantities of food…usually “comfort” or junk foods, in response to feelings instead of hunger. There is masses of research, giving ‘proper’ (what we call proper; control groups, large enough studies, impartial data gathering) data which suggest that ’emotional eating’ is caused… Read More >
50 Ways To Win At Life
1. You need a regular bedtime. That bedtime is probably 10pm. Set a bedtime alarm. Defend it. And not just for a week. For the long term. 2. You also need a regular getting up time – about 8 hours after you go to sleep. For your mental wellbeing as well as a ton of… Read More >
Self-Care, Wellness & Nits
“I’m taking some time out for Wellness and Self-Care.” Hrmphh. Just read that sentence on t’internet- and frankly… it gives me nits. Well, maybe not actual nits but makes me want to tear my hair out all the same. What I possibly struggle to articulate (because it sends me down all the detailed rabbit holes… Read More >
10 Back to School Tips
A Slightly Cynical and at times A Bit Rubbish Mother’s Guide. This back-to-school season is the first one since 1995 that I won’t be doing it.(Or 1993 if you count pre-school) Child #3 is off to college, and I am under no illusion that busses won’t be missed, folders forgotten etc – It’s not my… Read More >
We’ve spent 3 weekends leading activities and bringing the fun working at Camp Wildfire (google it – it’s awesome). It’s a Summer camp for adults.How cool is that? A weekend just to play. Climbing trees, making stuff, trapeze, quad biking, playing games, swing dancing, hot tubs, yoga, music and general good times.I won’t lie, there… Read More >
“I didn’t sign up for this”.
A couple I know, were having a ‘heated discussion’. The woman told me about it. Her: “I do everything around here, you do as you please – the house is a mess, my job is draining, I’m bored and I’m tired.I didn’t sign up for this”. Him: “How is that MY fault?” Her: “Because you… Read More >
Stoics practised journalling as a philosophical act, but not in a wafty woo-woo way. It was to prepare for the day ahead, to reflect on the day that it happened, to remind themselves of new wisdom that they had learned; from people, from books, from their own experiences. The stoics knew that it’s often not… Read More >
Trigger Warning – Funerals
Sorry to get a bit dark here, but I want you to imagine something that is definitely going to happen. You’re at the church or maybe somewhere else, and your funeral is underway. Thought I’d just get that out of the way early. You’re looking around and you recognise all those people from the different… Read More >
I did a Strong Woman Competition – (no really)
OK so here’s what happened in Feb last year – just before lockdown… I had already made 2020 resolution to “say yes to everything and work it out later”. Generally, that worked out well. However (now bear in mind, I’m quite little, do things like HITT and dancey stuff so I’m relatively fit… but the… Read More >
Let’s Monday Better
Mondays get a really bad rap. I was just thinking about why. This time of year, (and especially this year), we’ve probably had a nice weekend, getting outside, seeing friends maybe – kicking back and hopefully not working. And then BOOM, like a ton of bricks – it’s back to the grind; school runs, work… Read More >
You might already be in my book.
No names, no identifiable details – but maybe you’ll read something and say HELLO – that was me, that was! You may know Human Upgrade as a membership programme (you might be already part of it), but actually it’s a system. A blueprint, if you like – of how to win at life. How to… Read More >
Rubber Band Philosophy
You’ll need: 1 rubber band. If you’ve got one – grab it, but if not, you can imagine it. So I want you to stretch the rubber band between your fingers. The left hand: where you areThe right hand: where you want to be. There’s tension, right?(Good – there needs to be) Now, if that… Read More >
Groundbreaking get in shape plan
You’d think, wouldn’t you – that everyone would know the perfect plan for eating well and exercising properly. Surely there’s been enough science by now? But the studies go on, companies release their new groundbreaking ‘thing’, lots of people try it out and do well for a while – and then they don’t. Like the… Read More >
10 ways to failure-proof yourself
Bigass post – Meaty Ideas – Simple to Implement. 1. Give yourself a break from the all-or-nothing approach. Instead (much more fun) – build some sexy-looking success chains. Each time you have a day of productivity, perfect sleep, plenty of water, great eating, enough exercise, speaking up for yourself,or whichever good choices you want to… Read More >
I’m not being sexist, but…
there are some things that men are just better at. *takes cover for incoming fire* (No genuinely – not sexist, just wildly sweepingly generalising, don’t shoot me, yadda yadda). So, men (in my experience and anecdotally) tend not to say: Can I ask a question?Do you mind if I make a suggestion? They just (sensibly, in… Read More >
The Allegory of the Cave
(stay with me – I’ll try not to butcher this…) from Plato’s Republic, written 380 B.C. (keeping it funky fresh and up to the minute) It goes like this: Some prisoners are spending their lives in a cave, chained up, facing the wall and they can’t turn around. They get all their knowledge from the… Read More >
2021 – WTF? It’s a year since the first lockdown, and at Midday everything will stop to remember the things that have been lost. The lives that stopped. The businesses that stopped. The way of life we were used to that came to an abrupt stop. It also marks exactly 80 days that an alarm… Read More >
International Women’s Day
International Women’s Day (We couldn’t let today pass without a mention) For all the women and girls out there – a whole day just for us. Kind of cool For over 40 years now we have had Women’s Day on the 8th March – a day to reflect on all things female…. Women’s Day has… Read More >
Good morning, welcome to my brain, take a seat. A quickie. I’m getting together a webinar about Post Pandemic life, with neurology expert, Amy. I’ve been asking people what specific issues they’d like to solve. A really frequent issue is worry: What will it be like back in the office? What if people don’t wear… Read More >
Ready for Battle?
As somewhat of an expert in ballsing things up I thought I’d revisit something like that today. (Please see my ‘How to balls things up, like a boss’ post if YOU have made a hash of things – it’s my definitive guide link in the comments.) Wise & Gorgeoushttps://wiseandgorgeous.com/how-to-balls-things-up-like…/ But today I want to show… Read More >
Don’t take that tone with me, Madam.
“Welcome to the Pity Party Madam – Table for One?” (don’t be cross) It’s Random Acts of Kindness Day – which is all very nice, fluffy and tree-huggy. Don’t worry – I won’t be any of those things. If these last 12 months have taught us anything, it is to be kind. The highlights in… Read More >
Tired? I’m not surprised.
People talking to you, Zoom calls, Books, Podcasts, Blogs, Emails, TV, Radio, Netflix, Magazines, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Consoles, Clubhouse, Whatsapp, Newspapers, Apps, Notifications, Shares, Retweets, Tags… what have I missed? ^^^^^^^^^^ Today, in particular today – it seems everyone is tired. Probably no more or less exhausted than we’ve been for months, but if you’re… Read More >
Bored? I disagree.
Bored? I disagree. The opposite of love is indifference, and the opposite of happiness is—here’s the clincher—boredom, said Tim Ferris Let’s get up to speed. Earlier this week I talked about the fact that all of us are somewhere on the Skill vs Challenge chart. https://www.facebook.com/WiseandGorgeousCoaching/posts/10158049546001814 Knowing that can help you start thinking about the… Read More >
How are you both doing?
If you didn’t read yesterday’s post – have a vada here: https://www.facebook.com/WiseandGorgeousCoaching/posts/10158049546001814 Moovinon from my last blog.This one is for people in partnerships I’ll get to the people on their own, I promise. Yesterday I showed you a graph – and asked you to find yourself on it.But before we go on, I want to… Read More >
Shall we hit your sweet spot?
Where are you on this graph? Over the coffee machine buzzing , I could hear(whistling) “Tie me kangaroo down, sport, tie me kangaroo down” plus footsteps getting louder . Then DING DONG and three knocks” I knew who that was. There’s a woman who comes to the house to give me a blood test once… Read More >
BRRRRR. As a sun-worshipping, swim-up bar, salsa on the beach loving, type of holidaymaker left to my own devices, in the wild… I always used to think I didn’t really like the cold weather. I would metaphorically put my fingers in my ears and screw my eyes tight shut, until the daffodils came out again… Read More >
When will you stop skateboarding?
There’s a difference between getting old – and living a long time. Luck has something to do with it, but if your life was like a game at a casino… the things you are doing now buys you more chips to play. Smoke – you lose some. Don’t exercise – you lose some. Eat unhealthy… Read More >
Hope, Proms, and Kicks to the Balls
I bought this dress for my youngest daughter’s prom. We don’t know if she’ll get to wear it. Her Year 11 friends have collectively decided not to get their hopes up. And despite being dealt a terrible hand this year, I am so proud at how they are all having fun online and keeping each… Read More >
How are you feeling?
Spoiler alert: This post might make you feel worse before it makes you feel better. If you’re not up for that, maybe skip ahead to the cat videos and Matt Hancock memes. Whatever works. I was waiting for Alice’s video to start on Zoom yesterday (hiding some of my last-minute desk clutter on the floor… Read More >
Covid Crazy Learning
My youngest child is in her crazy Covid-style GCSE year.What a year to be doing it -especially after 6-months of no school… just the odd email from a teacher.Now it’s all systems go. Sigh She jokes that; when things have gone wrong/something’s on fire/the world’s gone mad: ‘the situation is somewhat sub-optimal’. 2021. Definitely a… Read More >
Are You Selfish?
I’m going to be a bit presumptuous. If I’m totally wrong, I apologise – but I’m going to go for it because it’s important.I know the world has gone insane, however – I’d like you to imagine one of your typical days.If you’ve got a pen handy, I really think you should do this. Question… Read More >
Navigate Kaleidoscopic Sh^t Show
Human Upgrade Firstly – if you’re reading this and you’re already in Human Upgrade – apologies. Also, we love you, and we’ll chat later in the Q&A at 12:30pm in The Sisterhood. _________________ I had a call with a lovely woman who has joined us for Human Upgrade. A real call – old school style…. Read More >
Goals – Can I have a Quick Word?
Goals. I don’t care what anyone says – they’re important. It’s not to say that it’s the end of the World if you don’t achieve them, or you get thrown off course. They also don’t need to be fanfare-heralded, World title ones, but I do think they have to make you uncomfortable. Celebrate the little… Read More >
Christmas Unbundled – 1. An Introduction
I want to tell you a story. And if you’re interested, I’m going to take a while to tell it. Well until Christmas actually, if that’s OK with you. Whether you have a faith, are ‘spiritual’, or are annoyed by people having faith or being spiritual. If you go to church every Sunday or just… Read More >
Christmas Unbundled – 2. Church
On a greyish Monday morning, holding a very sharp little dagger of a knife, looking out of the window of the portacabin, I could see the girls’ playground full of my friends. And I learned the word ‘Hooligan’. There was a boys’ playground and a girls’ playground. The boys’ playground was full of footballs and… Read More >
Christmas Unbundled – 3. Ritual
15 Hypnotists walked into a curry house. with a famous American mentalist. Sounds like the start of a joke, right? But it actually happened – and I was one of those 15. We were noisily crammed into an upstairs cubby-hole table meant for 10. Many of us had only met yesterday – the first day… Read More >
2021 WANT TO PLAY A GAME?
WANT TO PLAY A GAME? . 2020 has already gone down in history as stonkingly awful … and we are not even a month on. . Have you heard the forecast for 2021? I didn’t want to break this to you – but it’s not looking good. . Here’s what’s on the cards: . 1…. Read More >
Something Other Than Covid
They say hindsight has 20:20 vision. It’s often difficult to make sense of what’s going on – when you are in the middle of it. Unfortunately, though – we haven’t got 20:20 vision about 2020 yet. 2021 is like 2020 – series 2 – ‘freezing your nuts off’ edition. We are not out the other… Read More >
Don’t let the B#stards grind you down
I’ve always been someone who… not exactly breaks the rules (although – I won’t lie – it’s been known).. But I have always found myself scrutinising the grey area between them. “It’s usually best to….” “Most people do it this way” “We would recommend that you…” Normal people who get into less trouble than me,… Read More >
F^ck it. That’ll do.
I’ll be coming at you all week with various things I hope will be helpful. If you’re doing fine as you are – please scroll on by and wait for the funny ones, because I know I’ll post those too. If you did our Overwhelm challenge/Time Mastery Mastermind, you’ll know all about this stuff, so… Read More >
2020 Insanity Xmas Tips
Clearly you’ve got a shit ton of stuff to do this week. If not, I tip my hat to you, please go back to your book, hot chocolate, and clean, streamlined house – sorry to have troubled you. However, if you’re a normal mortal like the rest of us – may I take a moment… Read More >
Resolutions, now’s not the time
Hold up, just for a moment…. After all that’s happened this year, and whatever kind of Christmas it was… I hope you have your feet up and that you’re congratulating yourself for getting to this point. Well bloody done, in the extreme. While I have you for a second – I’ve got a message for… Read More >
And Another Thing, Doctor
I said I was going to convince you not to make New Year’s Resolutions, but that wasn’t exactly it. I wanted you to hang fire for a bit and I invite you to consider some other things FIRST. That was my polite way of saying you REALLY need to do this. To get some nuts… Read More >
Puppy Train Your Lying Brain
I’ve been trying to convince you NOT to make massive announcements about your goals or hit Amazon up for Nicotine Patches, Running Shoes and Self-Help books. For a minute. And let me help you make THIS the time you permanently succeed at that THING you want to achieve. And for the process to be much… Read More >
Perspective – 2021
I did get unusually slightly humphy when they closed the gyms again. Brilliant… We get the shopping delivered, We walk at quiet times Keep fit Observe the rules. But we do go to the gym every day. So we’ve had to make do with a home gym In the garage, not the same equipment and… Read More >
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