Romance Eisenhower
This one is for those in a long-term, romantic relationship – in the chapters we talked about yesterday.
However, if you are not currently in one,
you could use it as a mental exercise to think through how things might have broken down in the past,
or how you’d actually like them to go with any new relationship.
You’re familiar with the Eisenhower Matrix – so let’s use a version of that when it comes to long-term romantic relationships.
The things I have put in there are mine – yours might look quite different.
There genuinely is no wrong and right.
As with most subjects we look at in Human Upgrade – knowing your Values are what will dictate what you put, and where.
If you find yourself repeatedly butting heads with your partner, and can’t find common ground,
It’s useful to work out where each of you would place the repeated elements of your life together, on the Matrix.
(It doesn’t have to be like this – but it’s as good a system as any!)
It could be a fun exercise to do together – although it could end up with conflict, so if you do decide to – choose the time carefully.
What’s vital, is that you decide how your values fit with what you’re currently doing.
If something should change.
If you see eye to eye – or need to work out how to move forward.
If you’d both put the same things in the bottom right box.
Once you are happy with who you are and what you are doing, you’re in a much better place to find harmony with someone else – and common ground in change.
Have a go at your own Relationship Eisenhower, it always throws up interesting information that you wish you’d known earlier.