People are brilliant.
I stand by that.
Ok, MOST are brilliant, once you get to know them.
And the rest of them…
are just in the middle of their own thing
and may just be being bastards because of that.
There tends to be a reason.
Anyway, that aside
this week at W&G Towers…
We have seen the gentle, sometimes dramatic and
very real unfolding of people making sense of their lives.
And putting old ghosts to bed
And getting happy in The Project.
“I know it sounds silly, but I’ve started smiling for no reason”
“I’ve stopped snapping at the kids”
“I thought ‘Feck it – I’m going swimming…people can think what they want’
Yes, it’s all excellent that people get into shape
and break their sugar addictions –
and are going running and all that stuff we are supposed to show off about
(to be honest when one lady posted she’d lost 2 stone
in 7 weeks…We worried more about how everyone else would feel)
Once I took 5 girls in the car for a show audition
and only my daughter made the cut.
#Awks
There was the simultaneous “don’t worry girls – you did really well”
and “arggh try to keep a lid on it till we get home and we’ll celebrate”
Same thing.
Following year we went again.
Same 5.
All 5 got in.
Just how it went.
We’re all somewhere on this.
With fitness and weight loss…
and actually daily Mindfulness Practice too.
(which I promise you is more important than anything you
eat or workout you do)
Usually the “I’ve been at this weeks and nothings happening”
massive breakdown
is ALWAYS swiftly followed (often the next day)
buy a breakthrough…
a happy measure/weigh session, something that clicks, or get better.
Trust me.
Seen it so many times.
(We’re getting on a bit)
So just wanted to say.
Comparing yourself.
It’s natural.
We look at other people to work out how well we are doing.
If we are OK?
But it’s not a fair comparison.
Check FB, and you see everyone’s best day,
only flattering photos and perfect families.
No-one posts that they have PMT, and a massive spot
and they can’t get in their jeans
there is no food in the house
and the children are behaving like bloody psychopaths.
Look at magazines or the telly
and you are confronted by botoxed, air brushed, photoshopped
lies.
At the risk of sounding like an annoying internet meme.
Please give yourself a day off.
You’ve done the best you possibly could have done
….given what’s happened – and the energy you had.
You can’t change that stuff.
BUT
You can go forward and move in any direction you like.
And whether you get there, hating your body,
comparing yourself to other people,
and worrying about what other people think….
Or just decide to let go of all that.
It will still take the same length of time.
Your life is made up of a series of moments
and only you get the choice of how you approach each of them.
My mother in law is interfering and she drives me mad.
I’m going to have to tell her to back off.
My mother in law cares enough to want to be involved, bless her
I will kindly let her know I have things under control and make her feel needed.
I hate my boss, she’s always trying to find fault
I’m going to make a complaint to H.R.
I’m going to talk to my boss and help her see my workload
and ask if she’ll mentor me.
I can’t stop eating crap in the evenings.
Sod it, I’m so pathetic – I’m a lost cause.
I’m going to get some healthy snacks in the house,
get some early nights with a good book
and catch up on Netflix
To see if I can eat better in the evenings.
No-one else can decide that stuff for you.
But you absolutely can.
Get in touch, if we can help you with it.
We seriously can.
.
We basically operate as full time Agony Aunts at the moment.
We rather like it
And are completely confidential
We sent a little video email to some ladies in The Project
this week about…
Falling off the Horse. And what to do then.
Hope it’s useful to you
xxxx
p.s The Project is full for August, but some spaces in September
Info on the Purple button