A couple I know, were having a ‘heated discussion’.
The woman told me about it.
Her:
“I do everything around here, you do as you please – the house is a mess, my job is draining, I’m bored and I’m tired.I didn’t sign up for this”.
Him:
“How is that MY fault?”
Her:
“Because you just carry on as if we don’t have children at all, sometimes.”
The truth is – things change when you have children.
Your body changes.
Your world is turned on its axis.
There isn’t a time that that child (or children) isn’t on your mind.
Every decision you make is filtered through the fact that they exist.
And he’s right:
Even if he is brilliant, supportive, loving and helpful.
The best dad in the world.
Even if he’s a great provider, and fun with the children.
Me:
“How you feel isn’t (usually) his fault.”
She didn’t like that answer.
It’s just how it is.
It’s how we’re wired.
It doesn’t feel instinctive to prioritise your happiness.
Growing a baby, feeding it, nurturing it through the stages of childhood consists of millions of selfless acts of love and effort.
Ones we don’t expect to get a medal for.
Ones we don’t get performance bonuses for.
It’s easy to drown in the volume of stuff to do.
To forget what your bigger plans were.
To ignore the small annoyances until they become BIG fecking issues.
There’s good and bad news.
The good news is that you get to take charge of that.
The bad news is that you have to take charge of that.
There are some exceptions, obviously – but how much time and energy you have is a result of what you will and won’t allow in your life.
The way people treat you is based on how you let them treat you.
How your body looks and feels is a result of how you treat it.
And all of it is predicated on how brave and committed you are to changing things.
If reading that made you hate me, (obviously I’d rather you didn’t) but that’s OK if it helps you get clarity.
- If you looked across your life;
- The way you feel
- The things you do
- How successful you are
- How happy you are
- How healthy you are
- How in shape you are
- How happy you are in your relationship
And rated them out of ten…
What would the score be?
Are there some obvious low-scoring areas?
Are things in place to improve those scores?
Are they going up?
Down?
Staying the same?
If you’re scoring a 40 then fantastic – living your best life – I’m happy and excited for you.
But if not…
If it’s too irritating to do this exercise.
If it’s ‘different for you’.
Then project yourself forward 3 years.
Will it be 3 more years of the same.
Could things get worse?
And if so – are you OK with that?
(that’s a legitimate choice)
Or
If deep down, you are ready to start bringing those scores up and you know it’s time.
If you were waiting for a sign or permission.
Well this is it.
I promise you;
You not only deserve all of those scores to be a ten,
But you are the only person in the world that can make that happen.
And you can.
You can do it yourself.
- Find the biggest issues.
- Identify the obstacles.
- Listen to the stories you tell yourself.
- Take a reality and honesty audit.
- Then set some goals.
- Break them down.
- And take consistent action.
But if you want help with that, the tools, a system and a Sisterhood of awesome women on your side helping you get there…
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If you haven’t got fitter, happier, clearer, healthier, calmer, more confident about where you’re going in life.
And you’ve done the work
We’ll give you all your money back.
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We’re that confident.
(no one has ever asked us to, but yanno – the offer’s there)
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