As somewhat of an expert in ballsing things up I thought I’d revisit something like that today.
(Please see my ‘How to balls things up, like a boss’ post if YOU have made a hash of things – it’s my definitive guide link in the comments.)
But today I want to show you how you can future-proof yourself against setbacks in general –
self-inflicted, government-enforced or otherwise.
As you may have seen, I (medical term) twatted my ankle recently.
Literally walking along in the woods – and then what sounded like a horrific gunshot fired out of my ankle.
I have had 3 babies, at home, no pain relief… piece of cake.
THIS pain was 100 times worse.
I fully screamed and cried.
Childbirth just had me making up comedy swear words.
Now if you are GOING to fall over ridiculously in the woods for no good reason,
definitely do what I did and make sure you are with Amy Linford, currently UKs Strongest Woman and rehab expert.
Poor woman had to carry me for about half a mile (after me trying to argue that I could walk. I could not) and then racing another mile to get the car to rescue me.
I had to hoist my leg up into a tree in (basically the splits) by the entrance so passers-by thought I was an escaped psychopath.
Pretty heroic of her, right?
I was supposed to be filming and delivering classes on all kinds of fitness things,
including ballet fitness (which really does require 2 working ankles).
A pretty good metaphor for the point I wanted to make.
Ankles are twatted.
We make mistakes.
The world lobs obstacles in your way.
Things go to shit that we can’t control without a Tardis.
The worst things you can do are:
– Start shaming yourself about it.
– Complaining about how unfair it all is.
– Letting yourself sink into misery.
– Resting up till your ankle’s mended, spaff the entirety of Netflix and eat/drink yourself into oblivion until it’s all over.
No, my friend.
You put your sexy armour on.
You climb a hill (or on top of your sofa)
And let out a warcry.
Then you go into battle like a hero.
Heroes wear their scars from the battles they fought.
They aren’t ashamed of them.
They don’t run away and hide.
Getting knocked down AND GETTING BACK UP is something to be proud of.
That’s the stuff that makes you better.
Q. But… how do you do that?
A. You do it kindly and cleverly.
1. Acknowledge your internal narrator about the situation.
Name it. “I feel _________________ , but I am going to be kind to myself and realise it is part of the human experience”.
2. You work out what you can learn from it.
* This _______ (< shitty thing) happened.
* Here’s what I did WELL ________________.
* Here’s what I didn’t do well ______________.
* Here’s what I will do in the future ______________.
It’s choosing post-traumatic GROWTH.
What you’ve done there is earned a NEW piece of armour.
That will make you stronger, more resilient and able to weather something like this happening in the future and get back to normal even quicker.
Wishing you a great week.
Be safe out there, soldier.
p.s. My ankle got better in 6 weeks not the 12 it was supposed to.
I rehabbed it every day; carried on exercising around it.
Allowed 24 hours to feel sorry for myself.
Then cracked on.
I also got some better walking boots.
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