Tripping as you walk down the street
Coffee stain on your top, giving that presentation at work
Putting your foot in it with the in laws
Skirt caught in your underwear
Not knowing what to say
Oh God
Surely they all saw that
What must they think?
These are the moments that can make you feel as though you are on the X Factor stage
with the whole world in the audience.
…and they all saw
…and they are all laughing
…and they are all judging you.
Does this make you back off from life
Not take the risks?
Not put yourself ‘out there’ ?
Lets us introduce you to the Spot Light effect
Studies have shown this to be a real phenomenon.
We have a tendency to overestimate in our minds how much people notice you when the embarrassing moments happen
It has been shown in trials that people wildly overestimate the percentage of people in a group that notice a faux pas.
We all have a tendency to think that we are more visible than we are; that people are watching more than is the case.
It is a mechanism to protect us from being ostracised from the tribe.
A hangover from the Caveman days – when there were real threats out there.
A time when it was a serious problem to be the odd one out – and too visible to predators.
So our brains developed a neat trick.
To EXAGGERATE how risky things are so that you would hear the warning loud and clear and stay safe in the cave.
But today – it just holds you back
Slows you down
Makes you say no when you could have said yes
How do we change this?
- To tiptoe out…
- To look properly around
- And to know that there is a sea of faces just as self-conscious
- Then start to say yes
Little by little, you’ll feel and see that the worst consequences of living in the light are less oppressive than the best advantages of hiding in the shadows.
Simply by holding on to that fact.
The fear of making a mistake is far more debilitating than actually trying and sometimes making one.
Simply by updating your software you have the key to doing GREAT things in your life.
And more often than not – taking a risk makes you rise to the challenge of succeeding when staying in the safety of ‘the same’ – would mean that you would never even try.
And in the very unlikely circumstance of you making a huge mistake… never fear – we have that covered too. Read our blog post on ‘How To Balls Things Up Like a BOSS!!!
Have a great day.
Lots of Love
Tanya & Claire
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